I know it's common for people to joke that they're technophobes, but I'm the real deal. I'm not merely a slow adopter of technology; I'm actively hostile towards many forms of tech, especially those whose function intrudes upon our everyday lives. Consequently, I do not now nor have I ever owned a mobile phone of any kind, including a smart phone, which I unironically believe is one of the most damnable pieces of technology man has ever conceived.
Once I left my home last week for Gamehole Con in Madison, Wisconsin, I was effectively incommunicado. Without a phone, no one, not even my family, could reach me. I made prior arrangements with friends to meet me at the airport. However, if my flight were delayed or, as it turned out, arrived twenty minutes early, there was no way to inform them of this fact. The likelihood that there'd be some sort of schedule change either going to or coming back from the convention were high, since I had connecting flights both ways. That I encountered no airline problems was something of a minor miracle.
Of course, until about a quarter-century ago, most people didn't own mobile phones at all and they nevertheless traveled across the globe. Our current era of interconnectedness and instant availability is an aberration in historical terms, but most of us have become intensely accustomed to it, to the point that we can't even imagine anything different than our present circumstances. I know that, before the con, at least a couple of acquaintances asked me to hit them up on Discord when I arrived, so we could coordinate a time and a place to meet. Lacking the means to do that, we had to make do with more primitive means of meeting up. Fortunately, Gamehole Con is small enough that finding someone isn't that hard, if you're sufficiently motivated.
Of course, my friends all have smart phones, so I could simply borrow theirs to quickly check my email or Discord messages. In fact, I tried to do so. I say "tried," because, when I made the attempt, Discord noticed I was doing so from a location different from my usual one. To log in, I'd need to enter a code sent to my email address to confirm my identity. Alas, getting into my email proved similarly difficult, as Gmail, too, recognized I was not in my usual location and would only allow me to use it if I sent it a code that it had sent to my backup email address. Guess what happened next? That's right: an endless circle of dual factor authentication I could not circumvent by any means.
Similarly, when I checked in at the con to collect my badge, I expected I'd also be given physical tickets for my various events, as I had in the past. Nope! I'm not sure when Gamehole Con transitioned to virtual tickets – it must have been sometime after 2018, when I last attended – but, whenever it was, I was now expected to make use of a smart phone to demonstrate my having paid and signed up for my events. I was able to rectify this with the organizers, who took pity upon me and printed out some tickets for me to carry around. However, the fact remains that Gamehole Con, like almost everything these days, simply takes it for granted that I must, of course, have a smart phone.
What's fascinating is that nearly everyone I encountered who learned of my lack of a phone expressed wistful admiration of me. "I wish I could do that!" or some variation of it were common statements. And the truth is that there are many benefits to not having a phone, especially at a convention. For instance, I was never once distracted by calls or notifications, as were too many people, even during games. I was free to focus on the matter at hand. When I was distracted, it was by something happening nearby in the real world, like the hoots and hollers of a nearby table, as a player rolled well (or badly) or as a man dressed as an orc and carrying a large ax walked by. I got to experience Gamehole Con unfiltered, unmediated by anything but my own senses. It was wonderful.
That's why I went to the convention, after all: to be present. I don't want to sound like some New Age guru spouting off platitudes about mindfulness, but I do think we too often miss out on valuable interactions and experiences because we're distracted by the ever-present allure of technology. The number of people I saw at the con sitting down and scrolling through their social media accounts was larger than I'd have liked it to have been (though far less than what I saw in airports or on planes – yikes!). I was in a unique position not to have the option to do this. I had no choice but to be present and aware of everything that was happening around me – and I believe I had a better time because of it.
Additionally, I was completely cut off from the news, whether local, national, international, or even just the news of our shared hobby. I fight against the notion that ignorance is bliss, but I can't that having no knowledge of what was going on in the world beyond what I could see and hear right in front me was a welcome respite, one that enabled me to enjoy myself more fully than I might otherwise have. I was at Gamehole Con to play some RPGs and hang out with friends, both old and new. Focusing on anything else would have been a distraction. Why would I want that?
James, thanks for sharing your experiences. I enjoy hearing different view points from mine, and I respect yours. I really appreciate having a smart phone, but at the same time, there is a need for balance, and I think there are times to put it aside and not use it. Glad that you had a good and safe trip!
ReplyDeleteThanks for this. Yes, I'm envious, and know I've sold my soul already, but this inspires me at least to take more steps to get away from the evil device.
ReplyDeleteI love it. Getting a smart phone back in 2007 has been a bane on my life ever since.
ReplyDeleteI've heard a whole similar line of thinking from my dad, although he has a regular mobile phone and an iPad, so he's mostly contactable. My view is that I was happiest when my phone was a device to talk to people with, a quick text and reading a text set of news headlines. That takes me to late 2001 with a Samsung flip phone.
ReplyDeleteI have also noticed the endless authentication loop that you can get into. That I think is a real problem that is going to trip us up.
What really worries me is AI impersonation. A friend (my original D&D buddy from the 80s) works for a large mobile phone operator and he told me that in April they were all given ba security brief on this technology where it can imitate you both visually and aurally. Scary stuff. Where that takes us all is that you can't trust a phone call or videocall from people you know without some agreed protocol (How's Auntie Bettie? I don't have an Auntie Bettie). That trajectory undermines online banking and Ultimately I think we end up back with face to face banking and signing for things in person. No bad thing perhaps.
(Written on a smart phone)
I didn't have a smart phone until 2022. I still live as if I didn't. I don't use it for GPS (I learn how to get around). I don't have any form of social media that I'm constantly checking on the phone. When I'm waiting to be seen at an appointment, I sit quietly while everyone else is on their phones. I use it at home, sort of like a tablet, but I can always go to my desktop as well. It's nice. I get comments like the one you mentioned when I'm out traveling without a phone and people find out. Some people have to have one for their livelihood (like my realtor friend) but most people honestly don't need to have one all of the time. Most people I encounter under 40 can't imagine living an adult life without a smart phone. Good to see that there's someone else out there whose hand isn't glued to a phone.
ReplyDeleteWhat I find damnable is not the device, but the attitude that it engenders: that one must be available at any time to anyone. I can turn off my smartphone whenever I wish, and I do when I am at conventions or other social events. On occasion, people have upbraided me for not answering their calls, which is annoying, but it's more important to be present for the people around me. I find the smartphone useful at times, and when it is not useful I do not use it. Perhaps I can manage this because I can not only imagine a world without instant connection, I used to live in one.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you! I hate cellphones. A lot of people's brains have been broken by their cellphones; they have no attention span now.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I do have one. I got my first in 2020. With so many organizations & sites going to 2-factor authorization, I can no longer get along without it. I don't use it much, as I've no truck with social media.
Having a smart phone is much more pleasant if you don't add any social media accounts. I have a Facebook account and a long-ignored twitter account but neither are on my phone.
ReplyDeleteMy iPhone is a fantastic resource, if only because I can get calls or texts anywhere or at any time. My work makes that extremely advantageous, so the phone is never far from me.
But I also like it because I can pull up information about anything, anywhere. I have an application that lets me tune my guitar easily, including to non-standard tunings and it was free (other than the cost of the phone, obviously). My phone is a flashlight, a camera/video camera, a way to check my bank accounts and deposit checks without going to a physical bank location, a library of music that I can play on a computer or most cars and lots of other things. I don't wear a watch any more. And yes, as a directionally-challenged human the GPS application can be very helpful.
I know they can be addictive; I've seen it in my family, but it's a tool and you can, despite the efforts of bad actors to keep you glued to it, use it responsibly. Additionally, you can still actually buy phones, as which James alluded in his first paragraph, that aren't "smart," and serve only as communication devices.
I'll still admit to longing for the days when I couldn't be reached when I was away from home. Good on you, James.
My own experience and attitude is not much different. It took me a long time to get a cell phone and then it was a member of an older generation, my mum, who got me one. I lost it fairly quickly but eventually got another one. I periodically misplace or lose them, so I never got an expensive one. I don't always take them when I leave the house.
ReplyDeleteAll my Internet stuff I do on my laptop, so like you I can't access Internet stuff when I travel.
I have my own way to 'tune out' from my surroundings and it is reading a book. On the other hand, I usually carry a sketch book and pen where I draw my surroundings, including people on trains. Usually, they are engrossed in their devices, so they are totally oblivious to being drawn, so that is a bonus for me. ironically, I am absorbing the ambiance.
James, you are the future.
ReplyDeleteComputers are a dead end. We happen to be living at a time when this dead end seems new and shiny and futuristic, when it is anything but. One of the most common fallacies about the future is to think that it will be just like today, only more so.
In terms of technology (minus the spice), look at Frank Herbert's Dune. That is our future. Our descendants colonizing Mars and manning Moon bases will look back on us staring at our glowing rectangles and shake their heads at how ignorant and backwards we were.
We'll need to develop mentats before we can completely get rid of computers. :)
DeleteNot a problem, my friend! We've had them for a long time. Read, for example, Hidden Figures by Margot Lee Shetterly. And we won't even need to use Herbert's frankly silly term ("mentats"), since the older and primary meaning of the word "computer" is "a person who computes".
DeleteThe wheel (general consensus). Plastic (my father's opinion). Toilet paper (mine).
ReplyDeleteBane: Evil triumvirate of Sofa, Television and Remote Control. I used to be THE remote control in my house as a child.
I found that watching television while standing greatly reduces the time wasted on television.
Now these expletive mobile phones. My employer thirty years ago made me carry a "blackjack" phone. Most people here know what that is. It was sort of like an Executives' version of a Bible: it makes you feel better, but doesn't actually do anything 99.9% of the time. So I was reachable for let's say Bosnia or Rwanda. But when you're saving to educate future children you don't have yet, and to buy your first home, and you just found out that the tires for your stupid 1992 Corvette are $357 each, you sleep in your suit a lot in the office with a drawcab full of boxed-shirts and a bag of banker's ties.
Alas, even then I wasn't putting out $160 + 60 + 320 a month to make the televisions, internet and blasted phones work. If I had asked my father for $80 a month to make a PHONE WORK, he would have beaten me to death. I can't be alone in that. No way I am the only one. I would need to make room in my shallow grave next to the cat-sandbox for at least a half dozen other guys in here.
I carry that infernal phone under protest, and admittedly the camera is superbly handy when you see a 1948 Hudson coupe idling at a traffic light in historic Middleburg VA during Autumn Leaves.
That, and last-minute expletive adjustments to grocery lists.
You are missing absolutely positively nothing. I don't know what Discord is unless it's a drunken band rehearsal reference.
Bane.
I got a cell phone late, and then kept my non-smart phone for as long as possible until the phone company told me that they were going to cut any support for my phone and I'd have to upgrade. So I have a smart phone now, but I also basically only use it for calls, texts, and checking like, maybe four different websites? I always grumble a little when I have to use it for boarding passes or whatever.
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ReplyDeleteis a necessity for me in a culture that doesn't have a lot. I'm not about to forgo the useful apps (such as my voice memo recorder) for a sense of privacy - I can turn on airplane mode for that. Plus, I need my soundtrack to get that Saturday Night Fever strut just right. I'll never denigrate someone's choice to not connect, however.
I feel the way about Skype etc. -- including but not only for playing RPGs -- the way you feel about smart phones. (But I feel that way about smart phones, too.)
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I begrudgingly possess and use the technology. What irks me is the ever increasing pressure to have my life (banking, healthcare, ect.) on this technology. Incredibly resistant to the idea of paying for things with an app...No, No, No!
ReplyDeleteSmartphones have just made people _less_ social in a genuine, convivial sense and more annoyed by real face to face sociality. That's why people avoid phone calls now and just text people. It's Passive-Aggression tethered to peoples bodies ("I need to interact but I'm also annoyed by your presence"). People are addicted to screens the constant psychic barrage of data/information they might be missing out on from social media and media outlets farming for ad revenue (while paying for access to ads).
ReplyDeleteAnd that's just us older adults - I can't imagine what it's done and going to do further to the plasticity of kids brains who are around 21-and-under and know no social reality without the screen, within the screen, within the screen.
Smartphones are also just the impulsive "demon" and "cop" in your pocket. Infantilism deepens.
Idiots will always rationalize every technical/social change for the small populist luxuries without calculating the losses. Because at the end of the day - nerd/tech culture was never about liberatory technics. They are just the subordinates of capital and labor efficiency so you can do more work.
I'd love to see youth start to betray/rebel against the Boomer's machines - even if they fail. The moments of freedom and adventure will be worth it.
'Idiots will always rationalize . . . ' that is priceless, and it somehow draws my feeble mind to a House of Mirth (Edith Wharton) quote regarding 'People finding solace in a conventional formula' or something thereabouts. It took me fifty years to realize that we don't build more roads and bigger highways to alleviate traffic. We do it to build more homes and commercial pads farther afield. The smart guys put a skimpy dress on a conventional formula. Populist luxury. Long ago we lost sight of calculating losses. Thus, Walmart.
DeleteAnd the power of D&D. Moments of freedom and adventure.
I have to have the "smarty" phone for work and I do enjoy the convenience of some features. But I keep almost all notifications turned off, have no social media apps, and have really stripped it down to quality of life apps. And my podcasts. I have to have my odd podcasts for driving around listening, and when I am doing menial tasks. I think that is the key though, keep your time limited and keep your apps down to useful navigational aids through life and what work demands. And frikkin' podcasts!
ReplyDeleteI also don't have a smart phone. And I do get amazed reactions from people. Having never had one it's easy to resist the temptation. Who needs to be depressed by the news at the push of a button?
ReplyDeleteI, like many others, am reading this on a smart phone. Apparently, my wife tells me, as a consequence I missed overheating someone saying something very amusing!
ReplyDeleteIt is entirely possible to be present in a moment, enjoy the things going on around you, and also own a smartphone. Those are not mutually exclusive things. I attend multiple concerts a year, each one now requiring me to have my tickets on a phone, without the option of printed tickets whatsoever, and I do not find myself staring at it while the band plays. Others certainly do, and I find that a ridiculous waste of money, but it isn’t compulsory.
ReplyDeleteFurther, I find it interesting that your Ludditism seems to exclude PCs, as well as tools like Discord and Google+. Truly, you yourself are often heralded as the foremost of the Old School Bloggers, which means that you aren’t adverse to ALL technology, just mainly this one thing. It’s more akin, I think, to how in our old age, we find a line in popular culture and say “I cannot accept this”. For myself, it is the look on my children’s faces when I once again shout for them to stop yelling “BRUH” at their gaming friends, and for you, it is the look on the face of the guy at a convention who has to print you tickets, I suppose.
Kids weren’t loud before the word “bruh” was coined.
DeleteDouglas Adams:
ReplyDelete"I've come up with a set of rules that describe our reactions to technologies:
1. Anything that is in the world when you’re born is normal and ordinary and is just a natural part of the way the world works.
2. Anything that's invented between when you’re fifteen and thirty-five is new and exciting and revolutionary and you can probably get a career in it.
3. Anything invented after you're thirty-five is against the natural order of things."
Exactly. He was always right. ;)
DeleteThis is how James, a prolific blogger who checks his blog multiple times a day to approve comments, calls himself a luddite.
DeleteAdams rule is true of many things. I accept all types of music that existed up until I was 17 or so. Every music genre created after that is crap.
I accept all D&D rulesets created before I was 17. The rest are horrible. It's why I read this blog.
Peter Graham had a similar sentiment to Adams: "The golden age of science fiction is 12."
I'm bouncing that around in what is left of my brain. I suppose some of it involves what we classify as Technologies. Internal combustion, refrigeration and air conditioning, washer/dryer/dishwasher advancements, tv and radio, interstate highway systems for troop deployment, the demonic television remote control, etc. I remember being ridiculed by an oldster once for not recognizing a coal shovel (one wonders how many people here would recognize a coal shovel) or a manual corn planter. But then those same oldsters were quite embracing of the technology that didn't kill them painfully of breast cancer in six months, or the horrific financial imbalance of the Social Security system that was based on a life expectancy of about 65 years for women. Technology is a strange floating point, the stuff of bourbon and cigars and that expletive lawn cushion that got rained on.
DeleteMuch like anything I imagine the Stupid People will continue to do Stupid Things, and the Slightly Smarter People will adapt, and the Very Smart People will find a way to convince the Stupid People of what they really want, and sell it to them. Teach a man to fish, and you can sell him a fishing pole. And a boat. With an 84-month loan.
James, last year I was exploring the Amazon Basin when I made contact with an indigenous tribe previously unknown to modern man. Initially our meeting was tense, but I was able to make a breakthrough with the chief by sending him memes on his iPhone XI. We follow each other on Instagram now….
ReplyDeleteI jest. My phone died awhile back, and in the week it took me to battle a replacement out of Apple, I felt a weight had lifted off me. My kids were aghast, amazed, dumbfounded! How could I survive without a smartphone???? I told them about the days of yore, when bold humans went out into the world daily with no connection to anyone, other than maybe a pay phone.
I then had to explain what pay phones were.
Nice! Every time you post things like this I can't help but think how similar we are. Growing up in the Washington, D.C. metro area, discovering D&D about the same time, etc. Now I find out, like me, you do not have a cellphone and because of that we share similar experiences, from having to show tickets on your Smartphone (not to mention restaurant menus and QR codes) to the catch-22 of dual authentication and reactions from people when they learn you don't have a cellphone. Heck, your even ahead of me on technology: you have a blog! Which is something I really enjoy reading each morning at breakfast. Just wanted to let you know, there are still some of us out there and you're not alone.
ReplyDeleteI used to love two of the cons I regularly attended in the 2010s because the network was really bad there. Alas! network improvements have now made them exactly how you’ve described GH: ppl constantly distracted and not fully immersed in their game.
ReplyDeleteYou do understand you can TURN SMARTPHONES OFF and turn them back on if you need them?
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